By : Sandy O'Shea 

​I have a rather personal question for you.  Do you masturbate?  Do you do it alone?  With toys?  With a partner?
 
It absolutely astounded me as I was researching this topic how attitudes have not really changed that much when it comes to masturbation.  It’s ok for men but not for women?  Why the heck not?

I have a love hate relationship with fall. As much as I love the burnt oranges,  and golden yellow hues of the season, the unpredictable weather can make it difficult to plan an outfit, on most days. The day may start off feeling like you are living in Siberia and by lunch it can feel like summer.
Over the years I have found investing in wardrobe pieces that can be easily be added or removed to your outfit are key for a transitional season like fall.

​​Let’s face it, we’re not getting any younger (chronologically anyway), and sometimes we aren’t as flexible as we used to be.  Perhaps you’re not as juicy as you once were.  Our skin might not be as taut as it was, we might be carrying a little extra insulation, and we might be struggling with changing hormone levels, kids leaving the nest, and sadly the end of a relationship, for whatever reason.
 
So to help you along your way, here are 10 things that can help you enjoy sex more after the age of 50.

Who doesn’t enjoy eating a sun-warmed tomato, fresh off the vine?  Or a crisp, frost-sweetened apple off the tree?  As delicious as it is to eat fresh food, preserving it allows us to eat it out of season. Preserving can include any of the following methods:  drying, brining, smoking, canning, salting, freezing, pickling, or cooking and putting into jars. ​

​Over the years when I've been at the bottom of my priority list or not on it all (because life happens), I have found that taking a weekend for myself to de-stress and refocus on me is the perfect jump start to getting back on my self care daily practice, especially after a stressful time. Of course you don't have to do it just on the weekend - if two days during the week work best for you, that works too!

​Skincare and makeup can be a very overwhelming experience for some women, not to mention expensive if you keep buying the wrong products! So, let's chat about one of my favorite skincare products.

​No … I’m not talking about sexting your girlfriends ;) I’m talking about opening up and being vulnerable with your girls … and in the process finding out that you’re not alone, that you’re not strange or weird or unusual.  You’ll likely find out that you are like a LOT of women … women who are afraid to admit that they have questions or fears or insecurities, when it comes to talking about SEX!

​For those of us over the age of 50 or even 40+, were probably raised to think of sex as more of an obligation, something to keep our men happy, or as a means to procreate. Talking about sex was taboo and something you just don’t do. Well guess what???  That’s total bullshit!!  Women have JUST as much right as men to do, to fully enjoy a fabulous sex life!!  And talking about sex is how you learn about it. It also helps you understand your lady parts and identify what is happening down there that may be a concern.
 
Some questions to get the conversation going with your gal pals:  What does a great sex life mean to you?  Have you actually given it any thought?  What do you enjoy doing?  What do you enjoy having done to you?  Do you masturbate?  Do you use vibrators or dildos or other toys?  Are you single or do you have a partner or multiple partners?  Yup, I went there.

June brings with it the beginning of a new season - ahhh Summer! A time when we ease up on structure and slip into a slower, more relaxed pace. Jennifer is sharing the angel messages that she received for our Reslientista readers.