Let’s face it, we’re not getting any younger (chronologically anyway), and sometimes we aren’t as flexible as we used to be. Perhaps you’re not as juicy as you once were. Our skin might not be as taut as it was, we might be carrying a little extra insulation, and we might be struggling with changing hormone levels, kids leaving the nest, and sadly the end of a relationship, for whatever reason.
So to help you along your way, here are 10 things that can help you enjoy sex more after the age of 50.
No … I’m not talking about sexting your girlfriends ;) I’m talking about opening up and being vulnerable with your girls … and in the process finding out that you’re not alone, that you’re not strange or weird or unusual. You’ll likely find out that you are like a LOT of women … women who are afraid to admit that they have questions or fears or insecurities, when it comes to talking about SEX!
For those of us over the age of 50 or even 40+, were probably raised to think of sex as more of an obligation, something to keep our men happy, or as a means to procreate. Talking about sex was taboo and something you just don’t do. Well guess what??? That’s total bullshit!! Women have JUST as much right as men to do, to fully enjoy a fabulous sex life!! And talking about sex is how you learn about it. It also helps you understand your lady parts and identify what is happening down there that may be a concern.
Some questions to get the conversation going with your gal pals: What does a great sex life mean to you? Have you actually given it any thought? What do you enjoy doing? What do you enjoy having done to you? Do you masturbate? Do you use vibrators or dildos or other toys? Are you single or do you have a partner or multiple partners? Yup, I went there.
Whether you are newly single or have been single for awhile re-entering the dating world can be a bit scary and intimidating. A lot has changed since we were dating in our 20’s particularly with online dating being the “new normal” to meet potential mates.
When I decided to start dating again, I was in my 40’s and I cringed at the thought of having to put myself out there again. I didn’t know what to expect or what I would find but I knew I had to go in with an open mind and positive attitude if I was going to have any success.
All relationships centre around compatibility. We all recognize compatibility – they are the relationships that flow easily, the ones we call ‘good’ relationships. We also have ‘bad’ relationships with people that we know we’re incompatible with - we often try to work at these relationships, hoping to make it better.
If the relationship is with a family member or a co-worker, we do what we can to live in harmony, but when it is with a chosen significant other, we have three options that can lead to peace:
When you are driving along, and the GPS begins to say "Recalculating" it's often because you have taken a different path than originally mapped or perhaps an unexpected event(s) occurred ahead - and the GPS is directing you towards a more efficient route to reach your destination. The Universe is like GPS for life ... if we are straying from where we are suppose to be, events will occur to help steer us back. Unfortunately these events may not always happen in the form of a joyous occasion, most often they are gut wrenching, WTF kinda of events.
We have all been there, our lives become so busy with career, family, domestic chores and the day to day activities of life, or we are so wrapped up in dealing with health, relationship challenges (be it family, romantic, work, etc.) that we neglect our friendships. Then, when the dust settles, we look up and wonder where did everyone go? Well, the friends that are like family will still be there - but it's up to you to reach out and start reconnecting and rebuilding that friendship/bond.
What about when your friends are busy with their lives and while you get together once in awhile, you find yourself spending more time on your own, wishing you had someone to do things with. As adults many of our social connections that evolve into friendships are made through work, play dates, and social invites. When children grow up, we (semi)/ retire, working for our self - think working from home - and less involvement in community occurs, it lessens our interactions with others; thus making friends later in life may not come as easy as it once did. But, it's not impossible, there are many opportunities outside a work environment to connect with others and make friendships.