By : Sandy O'Shea
I have a rather personal question for you. Do you masturbate? Do you do it alone? With toys? With a partner?
It absolutely astounded me as I was researching this topic how attitudes have not really changed that much when it comes to masturbation. It’s ok for men but not for women? Why the heck not?
Let’s face it, we’re not getting any younger (chronologically anyway), and sometimes we aren’t as flexible as we used to be. Perhaps you’re not as juicy as you once were. Our skin might not be as taut as it was, we might be carrying a little extra insulation, and we might be struggling with changing hormone levels, kids leaving the nest, and sadly the end of a relationship, for whatever reason.
So to help you along your way, here are 10 things that can help you enjoy sex more after the age of 50.
No … I’m not talking about sexting your girlfriends ;) I’m talking about opening up and being vulnerable with your girls … and in the process finding out that you’re not alone, that you’re not strange or weird or unusual. You’ll likely find out that you are like a LOT of women … women who are afraid to admit that they have questions or fears or insecurities, when it comes to talking about SEX!
For those of us over the age of 50 or even 40+, were probably raised to think of sex as more of an obligation, something to keep our men happy, or as a means to procreate. Talking about sex was taboo and something you just don’t do. Well guess what??? That’s total bullshit!! Women have JUST as much right as men to do, to fully enjoy a fabulous sex life!! And talking about sex is how you learn about it. It also helps you understand your lady parts and identify what is happening down there that may be a concern.
Some questions to get the conversation going with your gal pals: What does a great sex life mean to you? Have you actually given it any thought? What do you enjoy doing? What do you enjoy having done to you? Do you masturbate? Do you use vibrators or dildos or other toys? Are you single or do you have a partner or multiple partners? Yup, I went there.
Sex and the City fans, will recall that moment Carrie and Mr. Big interacted for the first time, as he picked up her condoms from the NYC sidewalk. Had her goodies been secure in a "on the go sex pouch" in her handbag, the awkward moment may have been avoided.